Sep 29, 2011

Reliable vs. Restless

There are two types of people: Restless and Reliable

Restless people are always moving, can't sit still, their minds are wondering, they want to explore and venture. They are the people that tend to take leaps without a second thought and tend to not think things through. These are the type of people who excel when it comes to new ideas and being creative at work (or school, church, or any other environment).

Reliable people are still, thought provoking, consider every possibility, are super dependable. They are the people who tend to think things through before acting and are very organized in their attempts to do things. These are the type of people who excel at setting out a designed plan of action. Found in accounting departments and office work where organization is key.

If we relate these two types of people to a car. Restless people are the creative body of a car while Reliable people are the engine and mechanics of the car.
Neither have a purpose and can do the job they were designed for without the other, yet both can exist separate from one another.
A body of a car can hold passengers and attract others, but they cannot get them to their destinations or provide the tools necessary to run. The engine and mechanics of a car can run separately when outside of a the body, but without the body of a car it is nothing but a well thought out machine with potential.

The same applies to Restless and Reliable people.
Without Reliable people planning and providing the mechanics to restless people, restless people tend to dwindle. They may attract others to their ideas, but without reliable people helping form those ideas into plans, restless people end up going no where.
Without Restless people forming new ideas and being creative, reliable people can come up with great organization and plans, but without the creative inspiration they just have a plan without anything to apply it to.

Every person may have a little bit of both in them, however each person has a stronger tendency to be more reliable or restless. Both people, although great on their own, cannot fulfill their purpose without the other. Though Reliable people may become annoyed with the spontaneous, cant sit still, want to jump into action right now behavior of the restless, restless people become annoyed with the organized, have to have a well thought out plan of action, take things step by step behavior of the reliable.

It is when these two types of people can learn to work together that the greatest challenges can be over come and their purpose can truly be fulfilled.

Sep 21, 2011

Two roads - One path

When leaving the comfort of our high school days, there are two roads we can chose from. The road to further our education and learn our independence in an educational environment, or the road of hard knocks and entering the adult world through working and living on our own.
I chose the second. When I began wondering down the road of becoming an instant adult, there was no doubt wondering across my mind with each step I took as to whether I would stumble or find my way with ease. The journey started out with minimal effort. I had a great job for someone of my age, bought a nice car, was living on my own, had pretty decent credit for someone as young as myself. Really hadn't run across any huge hurdles or beasts down the road I chose.
Then before too long, I realized I had been letting a snake slither along the path with me, trying to believe it wasn't causing me any harm and believing I had fallen in love with the creature. In my own foolish demise, I found this creature was the snake it appeared to be. Secretly causing me harm, slithering its way into the money I built up to keep myself safe, whispering in my ear as I slept convincing me to allow myself to buy into things, only leaving me with debt. I tripped and fell hard the day the snake decided to leave. Thought I could never make it back up, lost in the deep woods, scared that I wouldn't be able to carry on my journey.
As time passed, I learned I never needed the snake. That there are other creatures that were slowly following me along my journey, only showing themselves when I needed help the most, and then disappearing back into the darkness. I've learned hard lessons. Lesson's I would have been saved from if I had traveled down the road of education.

You see, the first road, the one that leads to education... It is a road bright and clear. It is hard work and takes dedication because it is a longer road to the final destination of becoming an adult, but it is well guided with many signs and direction. Those who journey down the road of education jump the hurdles of a couple tests, have friends (new or old) join them as they complete the journey together, have small camp fires during the night to celebrate with one another. Though it may be a longer journey, they have a bright path lined out ahead of them filled with new friends and a support team cheering them on or helping correct their steps. Unlike those who take the short cut into the working adult world... where its a short journey that we mostly experience on our own with our support team hiding in the shadows of the dark woods that surrounds our path. Learning the hard way and not finding many new friends along our path. Only finding stops to work a bit so we can pay the toll of setting out on our own. Most of us pass up the short cuts to the other road. Too busy trying to fight off the beast and vines of debt that surround us.

Sep 4, 2011

To stop expecting....

When you stop expecting the unexpected happens.

Have you ever realized when you set expectations so high for something to happen, it tends to not happen and you are left in disappointment?

People tend to dream or play out situations in their head, hoping or dreading a certain situation to play out the way they see it. Usually this leads someone to have an expectancy toward a situation which can either lead to disappointment or can lead to fear. The latter causing some situations to never occur or causing more complicated situations to arise.

Think of a time when you expected something to play out a certain way. When it finally did play out, did it happen the way you thought? Most of the time, it doesn't.

When you stop expecting situations to play out in the dream scape you have created in your own mind, you leave yourself open to less disappointment in life.

When you stop expecting... there is no expectations or thought up scenarios already existing....therefore the unexpected happens.

Not to say we can't have hope or dreams, but as humans we tend to linger on the things we want most and our minds become so intangled on our wants we end up writing our own fictional story.
You can't predict the mind of another, nor control their tendencies/actions.

Sep 2, 2011

Can we love?

"A Native American elder once described his own inner struggles in this manner. 'Inside of me there are two dogs. One of the dogs is mean and evil. The other dog is good. The mean dog fights the good dog all the time.' When asked which dog wins, he reflected for a moment and replied, 'The one I feed the most.'" - George Bernard Shaw
From "No Bodys Perfect" by Kimberly Kirberger

Thought to ponder - Can we love ourselves if we are feeding the mean and evil dog most?

You have to learn to love yourself and be confident in who you are and what makes you unique before you can truly love others. My favorite part of the above quote is the response to which dog wins. Every person fights a constant self battle of good vs. evil, positive vs. negative in their head.
Both men and women are constantly feeding either their good or evil dog with positive or negative thoughts about themselves. When we feed most the evil dog, we neglect our self and how we feel about our self. Our confidence is lowered and we tend to not only show this in our attitude toward ourselves but also in our attitude toward others.

Within the book it discuss one girl who was in a relationship with a terrific guy. She had found her romeo, someone who truly loved her and did everything in his power to help build her up. However, she was constantly feeding the evil dog inside her head, destroying her own self image, the way she thought about herself. Her own worst enemy. She let the evil dog win.
When the girl lost sight of her own self love, it turned outward. She lost confidence in herself, she began to think her romeo was cheating or going to leave her, thinking he saw the flaws that she obsessed over in regards to herself and he had lost the love he had for her. This had not been the case. He did not notice these 'flaws.' He loved her for who she was, for her unique individuality. But, the relationship ended because her own demise of herself became so strong that she could not love her romeo the way he loved her.

When we cannot love ourselves, we obsess over the things we do not love, therefore destroying our love for those who love us.