Aug 30, 2011

Is there truth to an old Cliche?

We have all heard it at some point in our life.
"It is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all."
But is this always true? To some who have found real love, spent time with their loved one, and then lost them to time this may be a true statement. However, what about those who have loved and lost but the loss was not from a long time spent enjoying the comfort of someone who loved or perhaps did not love them?
Time and time again I have heard the tragic stories of others who have fallen in love with another person only to have a short time tell that they fell in love with someone who could never love them.
In other words, two people meet but only one falls in love.
I have experienced this. I had once met the person I thought I could call my soul mate. Destined to be together. After about a year and a half I came to find the person I fell in love with was not the person I had standing in front me. The person I loved had turned out to be a long drawn out lie by someone who was such a good story teller they had me believing and hanging on their every word. Even after the lies came out, I held onto this make believe person I thought I knew but what I held onto was only a dream and a story that ended in my own demise.

Before I use to believe this cliche, "Tis better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all." Now I'm left having been in love, having thought I found the one person I could have dedicated my everything to... now alone, back in the single life, and believing that perhaps it would have been better to have never known real love then to have lost it.
The demise caused from such heart break, the hurt, the haunting memories leaves one to wonder if they could ever love again. To have such deep emotions and willingness to give someone so much devotion and dedication as you once had ... there is a fear of the same trap awaiting you once you give in.